It’s another interesting edition of “Love Corner” on Naijaloaded and we thought we should let you know the 6 things you must know about Marriage before diving into it.
Marriage is not easy as it seems to be from the outside, you will really need to be strong, wise and reasonable to have a sweet one.
Checkout the 6 valid points we outlined below ￼
1. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE
Oh yes!!! There is no perfect marriage. There is no perfect individual therefore, there is no perfect marriage.
Two persons may be happy in a union but that does not mean the union is void of arguments, quarrels and sometimes malice. Challenges might occur but how maturely you both handle your issues is what matters.
2. MARRIAGE IS FOR BETTER OR WORSE
This one is serious. Marriage is no bed of roses. We have our ups and we have our downs. Don’t expect all roads to be smooth at all times.
Rich today, and poor tomorrow, love him/her. Healthy today, sick tomorrow, still love him/her. Your ability to overcome trials as a team is what strengthens your relationship.
If challenges come, be there to support each other.
3. MARRIAGE IS AN INVESTMENT
I always say this in every event I find myself. In marriage, what you give is what you get. (Garbage In , Garbage out).
If you treat your woman like a queen, she will treat you like a king, and vice versa. Invest positively now you both are young, it will surely pay when you both grow old.
4. MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT SACRIFICE
Love comes with sacrifice. If you can’t sacrifice for a person, then you don’t love him or her. Things must not always be your own way. It should always be a two way thing.
You both must make sacrifices for each other for the union to work.
5. MARRIAGE IS FOR A LIFETIME
These days people enter into marriage with a mindset of possibility of divorce. Personally, am not an advocate of divorce/separation (unless life is threatened).
That is the reason I always tell people “SHINE YOUR EYES“. Don’t rush into marriage. Take your time and know your intending partner.
Things you can’t tolerate while dating, don’t expect him or her to change after marriage. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
Note This:- If you have 80 years to live. You get married at 30 years, now, you are stucked with this lady or man for the next 50 years of your lifetime.
You are stucked with his/her flaws, strength, weakness etc. Now before you say “I do” ask yourself, how will the rest of my life be with this lady /man as my life partner?
6. MARRIAGE IS NOT THE SAME AS DATING
Dearies, Marriage and dating are two different levels of relationship. Dating is your fantasy while marriage is your reality.
During the dating period, there is so much packaging, trying your best to please your partner but in marriage, everything is real. I was in an event speaking, one lady complained that her husband used to cook and wash plates when they were dating, but now, he rarely does it. I Simply told her “welcome to your reality. You are no longer his girlfriend, you are now his wife“.
Oh yes!!! He has won your heart, and now, you both are in the real deal which is “marriage”.
Note:- Am not saying people must change from good to bad after marriage but marriage brings out the real personality in every couple. It’s no longer the duty of the man/woman to call, spend, sacrifice etc it is now a mutual affair.
Source – Naijaloaded